What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?

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So Marc and Angel Hack Life had a blog post recently that asked 365 "thought-provoking questions".  I've picked some of the ones that stood out to me and hope to occasionally use them as writing prompts.

What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?

I would get tattoos that I loved wherever I wanted to with no concern for whether they are easy to hide with clothing (let's be frank, I may just do this anyway, or would if I had a tattoo line item in my budget).  


I would experiment with make-up more than I do.


I would joyfully sing along to any song that I love, regardless of where I was when it started playing (and music is not where my talents lay -- but I have many songs that I love and singing along to them makes me happy).


I would cut & dye my own hair all the time just for fun and as a creative outlet -- regardless of what the end result seemed like to others.


I would have physical contact with others more often -- hugs, a hand on a shoulder, sitting close together.


It's funny to me how much of my list is appearance related -- I don't think of appearance being a thing I think about a whole lot.   I have a feeling I could make a much longer list given time.  

How about you?  What things are on your list?
 

Life choices vs. moral choices

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Since reading Moonlight Mile by Dennis Lehane, I have continued to ponder what the main character said at one point:

I just notice people sometimes mistake their life choices for their moral ones.
~p.133, Moonlight Mile by Dennis Lehane 

His words keep bouncing around in my head but I haven't been sure how to articulate my thoughts about why this sentence struck me in such a significant way.

I think that maybe I'm not the only one who (whether occasionally, sometimes, or often) struggles to make that distinction - where *is* the dividing line between something that is a moral issue and something that is simply a choice an individual has made about one part of her life?

Part of the difficulty, perhaps,arises when one thinks carefully about the decisions one makes. Most people have areas of their life within which they make more deliberate decisions.  I believe that it is those very decisions, the ones you take more time with, the ones that, perhaps, differ from those around you, that are the hardest to feel flexible about. 

Should our end goal be to acknowledge that even if we've carefully made life choices that are based on ethical or moral reasoning doesn't mean that someone who takes a different path is wrong?