How to Stay Unhappy

I thought this  was a great blog post.  Just a few tidbits - definitely check out the full post.

#2 - Obsess yourself with all the things that might happen in the future.

#13 - Always be right.  Never let anyone else be more right than you.

#23 - Get four hours of sleep every night and convince yourself that it’s enough.

#30 - Hang out with people who complain about everything.


#31 - Focus on what you don’t want to happen.

Life changes

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Tomorrow is my daughter's half-birthday -- she'll be six and a half.  This will be the first celebration that has happened since her dad and I have separated -- well, in addition to losing her first tooth.  :)  I feel sad that we aren't all three celebrating together and know this is just one of many sadnesses to come as we all continue to adjust to a very different life. 

My prayer is that my daughter will still feel surrounded by love all day tomorrow and know that she is treasured and that things will eventually feel more settled. 

I'm hoping to make pancakes for breakfast before she leaves for school and I'm sure she will have fun playing games with her dad tomorrow night.

Something my mom found and sent to me

The Direction Of Happiness 

Leaving A Relationship
 

One of the hardest decisions we ever make in life is leaving a long-term relationship that just isn’t working. When attempts at repairing and working out issues aren’t working, it may be time to examine moving on. We are emotional creatures, and when our heartstrings are tied to those of another, separating from that person can feel like an act of courage. It is not something most of us will take lightly, and many of us will struggle with our desire to stay in a relationship that is unfulfilling simply in order to avoid that pain. We may question whether the happiness we seek even exists, and we may wonder if we might be wiser to simply settle where we are, making the best of what we have. 


On the one hand, we almost relish the idea that true happiness is not out there so that we can avoid the pain of change. On the other hand, we feel within ourselves a yearning to fulfill our desire for relationships that are vital and healing. Ultimately, most of us will follow this call, because deep within ourselves we know that we deserve to be happy. We all deserve to be happy, no matter where we find ourselves in this moment, and we are all justified in moving, like plants toward the light, in the direction that leads to our greatest fulfillment. First, though, we may need to summon the courage to move on from the relationship that appears to be holding us back.



 
Taking the first steps will be hard, but the happiness we find when we have freed ourselves from a situation that is draining our energy will outshine any hardship we undergo to get there. Keeping our eyes trained on the horizon, we begin the work of disentangling ourselves from the relationship that no longer fits. Every step brings us closer to a relationship that will work, and the freedom we need to find the happiness we deserve.